Step Back

Hello beautiful souls,

I pray you’re having a terrific week so far!! Mine has been super busy but nonetheless, a productive week thus far. Have you ever found yourself complaining or whining without realizing you’re complaining or whining? Like have you ever found yourself just tripping? Please tell me I’m not the only one. Lol I had a “foot in my mouth” moment last week and found myself doing just that, tripping!!

I find we sometimes focus on what’s not being done vs what is being done in some cases, unintentionally that is. In my recent case, I found myself disappointed because someone special wasn’t doing this or doing that while completely and unintentionally (keyword, unintentionally) overlooking what they WERE doing. While I’m complaining, I hadn’t realized how much I hurt their feelings until I was told. I made someone very important to me feel like what they were doing wasn’t good enough when it was in fact more than enough.

I can even remember times my daughter complain about not getting something her way when 80 out 85 times just that day she did get her way plus some and I would have to remind her of what I had done for  vs what she was complaining about that I hadn’t done. It’s so easy to complain when not paid attention to. I pointed out “unintentionally” because it’s important we practice being intentional. (Intentional was my word for this year that I may make my word for next year too honestly since I have definitely been slipping with applying  being intentional.)

God’s intentional with us, isn’t He? Let me go even further and say I slip up and magnify what I feel God hasn’t done on my time or in the order I want this or that when HE’S GOD and does WAY MORE THAN  ENOUGH for me that I definitely don’t deserve. Sweet soul, have you ever been just in a ugh type of mood because life isn’t the way you pictured or because your car isn’t the car you wanted or because you didn’t have enough money to go to that 5 star restaurant you had a taste for when you had a taste for it? 

What about those times when you felt you didn’t have enough money in your pocket, or just wanted more than what you had when in reality you had EXACTLY what you needed for that current day!?! I admit y’all, sadly,  I’m guilty!! Who am I to utter a complaint about anything no matter how bad life looks? I’m breathing, able to eat at least 3 meals a day whether it’s what I want or not doesn’t matter. I have my five sense, able to , talk, walk, jump, run, comprehend and  when there are many who can’t do . What does matter is that daily, GOD provide exactly what we need when we need it and we need to stay mindful of just that not only with  Heavenly Father but with our loved ones also.

Next time you find yourself about to complain about something, step back and reflect on what has and is being done in that moment. Reflect on all you have to be thankful for in that moment. You know the saying, “It’s never as bad as it looks.” and “someone always has a worst hand than yours.”, is so true. I challenge you to look at the good in every situation more. I’m learning to zoom in on the effort of a loved one and making sure they know how grateful I am for what they do that they don’t really HAVE to do.

I’m sure God smiles every time He hears us say, “Thank you Lord for this day” or “Thank you Lord for this or that blessing”. I know it makes my heart smile when my daughter tells me thank you or she’s happy I’ve done this or that for her. I challenge you to take the time to thank a loved one whether it be verbally or with  small gesture like a letter or their favorite candy bar (NO TEXT or fb msg or email). Man, I’m telling you, it’s the small things that count and really matter most. I guarantee you that you’ll make their day!!! Stay blessed beautiful souls!! I love you and until next time….

💕 R.Q Janae💕



Ready for Fall

Hello beautiful souls! My, how I’ve missed blogging this summer due to life! How has your summer been going? (I can’t say “was” since technically summer isn’t quite over just yet.) What adventures did you go on or what lessons were learned in the summer-16? What would you say has been or will be the highlight of this summer season? Please share, I look forward to hearing from you!

My summer on the other hand was/is bittersweet. My summer season was COMPLETELY different than the way I had imagined it to be. It was a lot a heart ache, pain and definitely CHALLENGES & CHANGES that took place. Which is why I’m so READY FOR FALL! New season and a new chapter is about to bloom! (Fall is my FAVORITE season AND September is my Birthday month so I’m really excited!!!!) Although summer-16 is coming to an end, I’ve learned so much. I’ve learned more about myself than anything and I still have more room to grow and be better. I’ve lost a lot but what I’ve gained is full of so much substance that the things/people,etc that I lost is starting to feel all worth losing.

Without going to far I depth, I lost a marriage, a home, people I thought were in my corner, had to leave jobs and more. I lost my peace and joy at one point this season. At another point I thought I was losing my mind the way my life was turned upside down. I had to swallow a lot of pride this season. I don’t know about anyone else but I absolutely hate asking for help even when I need it most. Those that know me know that to be true firsthand. Not that I think I know it all or that I simply think that I can do it all on my own. I promise it isn’t from that “I’m to good to ask for help”place.

It’s more from a place of not wanting to feel like a burden or be in someone way or having  debt over my head sooo I’ll exhaust all ways of trying to help myself before asking for help for any given situation. Example, math; (My favorite subject by the way.) I would try to solve problems myself no matter how hard they are before I ask for any amount of help. I’m the same way with life unfortunately and fortunately in some cases. This season I’ve needed and got a lot of help from some beautiful souls and words could never explain how forever grateful I am and will forever be.

You would think that I would hate or think the worst of Marcus since, if I can be real, my life and my daughter life changed due to a decision he made. Honestly, I wish no ill will towards him but all God has for him. I’m thankful for all I’ve learned because of him. I realized my worth, what me and my baby girl deserve and I’ve learned what it takes and don’t take to make my next  marriage work if that’s God’s will for me and so much more.

I’ve grown in ways that surprise even myself this summer and I’m looking forward to the growth that will continue in this next season. I’m employed with 2 great jobs and I start school for business management next month. Though I lost some relationships, I gained a few that are very dear to me. I’m starting to loc journey officially next month. Although it’s been a rough one, with the grace and help from God, I know things can only go up and get from here. I look forward to sharing with you my experiences and lessons very soon.  I pray you all have a fabulous weekend!! Talk soon.

💕R.Q Janae💕